"What will others say?"

A question that killed so many dreams and destroyed relationships, yet people still care what will others say. It was a problem also for me. Most of the time, when we start something new we are thinking about others, what will they say, how will they react..etc. But this is just the fear of starting something new and unknown and also is the fear of being judged by others. From my experience, this is only in our heads, based on our projection of past experiences, and of course, all of this is related to our system of beliefs and programs played over and over by our subconscious mind. People from outside have and live their lives, and you will never be judged by a person that is better than you. Ask yourself these questions: What would happen if people judge you? What is the worst thing that could happen to you? See how do you feel it in your body.

The journey of self-discovery is difficult but will allow you to become the best version of yourself and to live your life with purpose. Being honest with yourself is the most important point in this journey. Many times along the journey I felt like I understood, but then going back and forth, and then again going in circles, not allowing my self to see the transformation. But one day, when I was sitting in stillness I realized that everything is matching like a puzzle. That was the day when my life started. During this first stage of my journey, I have learned some painful truths and I have also felt them deep down inside:

1 Other people's opinions do not define me. They are creating their opinion based on their beliefs, programs, and own vibration.

2. My time is very important and I choose not to spend it with people and situations that make me feel less than I am.

3. This is my journey, nobody else's journey but mine. Others are here to help me or to give me lessons through experiences.

4. I am a spirit in a human body, pure consciousness and I am here with a purpose. When my life is over I will take off my suit( this body) and go for training( up) and then back with other clothes into a different theme park.

5. I am at my best each and every second. There is no such thing as '' I could have done this differently”. If I could have done it I would've done it.

6. The Universe has your back all the time, and we are not alone even if we feel this way.

7. I am the creator of my own reality, and my reality is crossing yours because we have a contract ( at the soul level) to teach each other lessons, to evolve together, or to create something together.

8. Not to offer help unless I am asked for. When you want to help people that are not asking for your help think twice. Good is relative, and you cannot take their lessons away from them, that's the way they evolve.

9. To have unconditional faith in what is coming. Sleep is a small death, when you go to sleep nobody guarantees you are going to wake up the next day, although you still think about what you are going to do tomorrow. That's faith.

10. We are learning through relationships and evolve through our emotions. I understood that both men and women are looking for love and acceptance, but they are saying it differently depending on what they learned and felt in their early childhood. Always when we are ready to release a fear or judgment a new partner or relationship comes into our life. Just be present in your life, meaning be conscious and allow it.

11. We are all divine sparks and always see the light behind people, situations and things (pay attention the way you react). When the student is ready the techer will appear. There is always someone who is ready to teach you, inspire you, push some buttons or light a spark in you.

12. Love and happiness are choices but also sacrifice is a choice.

13. A choice is not a decision. You can choose something and stay with the choice for years and not act, but when you make the decision you act upon it.

14. Not making a choice is a choice. You choose not to make a choice. Your subconscious mind will always show you the wrongs because that's how it keeps you safe, protected.

15. Nobody belongs to anybody. When a relationship is over it is over because it was the time. Holding on to somebody comes from ego. Yes, there is life after you.

16. Things that you do not believe they exist they do exist, you are just not ready to see them.

17. In romantic love, there is no unconditional love. There is reciprocity, mutual love, and acceptance. What you give is what you get. When you get more or less there is an imbalance so the relationship will end.

18. NO is a full sentence. No means no.

19. Usually, people live between the past and future but never in the present moment, that's why they are always anxious or worried. They bring the past into the future, make assumptions based on past experiences, projecting on others their worries and negative emotions.

20. People do not know what they want. They want money, but they do not know how much and what is the experience they want to live by having money. They want a car but they do not know what car, color, type....etc, they want a partner but they do not know what are they looking for in a partner, what do they want to experience with the partner..etc.

21. Marriage and life are not your final desinations.

22. Nobody is here to save you.

Andra Mihaela Danilov